Where are you showing up but not really serving your relationships? Go ahead and take a moment to look at your key relationships; the ones you know that really matter for a variety of reasons. You know the who, I am asking you about the how. The how you serve them and is it truly serving or are you appeasing (coddling, placating, pacifying etc) them? If so why? What is the benefit of showing up this way?
Here is the what you may be missing. Being courageous, open and honest within your relationships will help them and you grow immensely. Would you not want all those who mean the world to you to be that way with and for you? I would. I don’t want to wonder what is true in the moment. Think of the time saved if nothing else. Efficiency with our communication will never go out of style.
I am not suggesting you be harsh, rude and dismissive. However, I do suggest that you serve them with honesty all the while being your authentic self. What makes all this much easier? Find out what they want first. Find out what they may OR may not want from you. Listen and listen even more. You will always serve someone at a higher level if you feel most comfortable providing feedback, input for growth and wisdom from a place of knowledge delivered from the heart (not your head).
So do a bit of inventory with key relationships and ask yourself, “How am I showing up for this person? Am I appeasing or am I serving?” Please consider the latter so when they walk away or hang up they will say to themselves, “Wow he/she really cares about me and wants the best for me, for us, understands my issues etc etc.”
Besides, isn’t that your truth?